Hmm...so I am truly uncertain how to touch on a topic that is on my mind. Can a man and a woman be friends? This question has been an ongoing debate between women and men since I can remember.
I think, yes. My husband? Thinks no. He surmises that a man does not want to be a girl's friend. His notion on this topic is quite direct. It goes a little something like this, they will act as your friend in hopes to "get you in bed."
I know that he is not the only man to feel this way, and I try to understand, but quite honestly? I can't!
I do have friends that are men. I do not honestly think that they want more. Do not get me wrong, we do not hangout, talk on the phone, or text. It is the rare occasions, like high school gatherings, a mutual friend's house, etc.. We re-connect, we converse, and we seldom, but do, touch base on Facebook.
However, years ago, I had been really close with a man. He was one of the sweetest men I had ever known. We had such a wonderful connection. When we lost touch, I truly missed him. When everyone reconnected on the social network, we found each other! It was so exciting to catch up on the past.
I had invited him to a party, and my husband was adamant that I rescind my welcome. I was so uncomfortable making that phone call, but I did it. I did it against my own true feelings, because I had to respect the feelings of my husband (No matter how wrong I felt that he was).
I just need to understand the side of a man that feels so strongly that opposites cannot be friends. Does this then hold true to the stereotypical male reputation? The reputation that men think with the head below the waist and not above? Are men capable of thinking with that "other" brain when it comes to women? Is he not capable of socializing on a friendly basis without intimate thoughts? Help me out here..
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