Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Will mommy logic meet Daddy reasoning?

Does a female outdistance a male when it comes to their offspring? The war between a Mommy & a Daddy. This is a tough post. I could probably write a novel on the subject! Nonetheless, let us sum it up. Mom in addition to Dad = Parenting? I can honestly say that there is no real answer to that equation. It is a mathematical mystery. I do not believe that a mother or father will or can ever agree on discipline. As a child, my disciplinarian was my father. If trouble knocked on my door, it was my mother that I had hoped answered!
The fear that I held of my father was so staggering. I hold that weight in my head until this day. I am a Mom, a parent, a individual who carried a life in her own body, pushed it out, and gave her and him a name! Suddenly, years have passed and this little luxury is an individual. A child who can minimally decipher the difference between self  & make believe. Who she/he wants to be is PROBABLY not me. Their dreams are big, and worries are small. The mind and innocence of a child is so satisfactory. A Mom? Not so sufficient. I use to have those innocent dreams and unrealistic visions of tomorrow. I now worry, agonize, and distress more then I had ever imagined possible. My innocence & dreams are lost, they are gone. However, my hopes, dreams, and ideas, can live on. They can live through the life of my babies. I wish to encourage every hope, dream, vision, and ambition. I, as Mom, will do all that I can, do all that I am physically, mentally, and emotionally capable of to clear the path to my child's dreams. I fear no challenge, big or small, because the challenge is never fierce enough, never tough enough for me to step into the ring & fight for the dreams of my child.
Does Mommy fight Daddy? I have not completely ventured into the realm of combined discipline. My children are to young to battle a practice of restraint encouraged by rules combined by myself and dad. We have sided with each other to create a lifestyle that is built by family structure. Our structure is built by bricks. Bricks of honesty, encouragement, discipline, likes, loves, and sometimes even spite. Yes, spite. The venom in a person is the strength to battle self-discipline. Every person, big or small, must challenge their self by whatever they feel slightly threatened by. It is simply a human instinct. Some call it jealousy, I shall teach sympathy. Whatever you envy, you should face eye to eye, and make better of that spite by becoming a more sophisticated, prominent, individual. Walk with your head held high and be proud of who you are.
My thoughts of raising this sophisticated individual today, may very well be my greatest challenge in ten years, but I have ideas mapped in my mind to induce such a theory of life into my off-spring. Always better your life & challenge your fears. Fear is just a feeling that can be challenged if taken at face value.



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